Can you say 'No' this February?!?

Wendy Wyatt is an expert in helping other people to reorganise their lives. Wendy says "To be effective you need to create good-habits, good procedures and be motivated to stick to them. It’s not just about being good at something it’s also about having a motivating plan that moves you towards your goal and creates success."

I'm always on the look out for topics affecting women in business, I loved what Wendy had to say in her latest newsletter that I want to share it with you today.


Kim McMillan says,
"When I loved myself enough
I began to say ‘no’
when I wanted to
and ‘yes’ when I wanted to"

Do you love yourself enough? Do you love yourself as your neighbour/friend? Do you find you are more able to do something for someone else than do something for yourself? - Not sure? You can learn to love yourself but what is ‘loving yourself’? ...Are you kind to yourself? Do you treat yourself as a precious child or do you ‘rant in your head’ at your mistakes? Are you able to do nice things for yourself? For a quick solution to loving your self more read the pointers below.

Do you say ‘no’ when you want to? If you always do more for others than for yourself then you ‘are not’ loving yourself. You need to say ‘no’ when you mean ‘no’ or risk overstretching yourself. You could be draining your vital energy on things you don’t want to do and then have none left for the things you do want to do.

Do you say ‘yes’ when you want to? Or do you find yourself saying yes to others first and not considering yourself? It is great to give and to care, however if you don’t take care of your needs first then how will you be able to take care of others? Remember in the airplane they always say to mothers ‘put your oxygen mask on before you do your children’s mask’.

Why is love the answer? Take a moment and imagine your first ever ‘flush of love’. How good did it feel? Now think about yourself, do you feel the same way about you? Do you put your needs first? You need to learn to love yourself to enable you to love other people, if you don't love yourself then who will? It is not enough to just be in love with someone else because you need to respond to your own needs and values to be true to you. To love yourself means to respect 'your' needs and values, but if you don’t take the time to know your needs and values how will you convey them to your loved ones? Could you imagine working/being with someone who didn't treat you with respect? Get to know your self and to respect your self.

How do you love yourself and keep yourself on the map? Love moves mountains. You’ve heard the stories… about how a father who lifted a car to save his trapped toddler. Love is powerful stuff but do you move mountains for what you want? Want to harness that power in you…? Then next time someone asks you to do something take a moment and ask yourself whether you want to say 'yes' or whether you want to say 'no'! By simply taking a moment to assess your 'self' you can know your true answer and then move closer to keeping your needs met. This way your inner guidance system may get the vital information it needs to steer your life in the direction you want.

Harness your power below; assess your true answer. If you say 'yes' when you mean ‘no’ you could miss an opportunity to do something in your life that could be important to you.
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Harness your power! Today…


1. Take a moment before you say ‘yes’ or ‘no’.
2. Say ‘NO’ or risk overstretching yourself.
3. Say ‘YES’ to what you want!
4. Be kind to yourself.
5. Love yourself, if you don't love yourself then who will
6. Do something nice for yourself.
7. Move mountains for what 'you' want
8. Practise loving yourself as you would love someone else
9. Assess what direction are you sending your life in by your responses

Wendy Wyatt www.inspireyourlifecoaching.co.uk